BEfore40 – LESSON #2: LOSS & LIFE
This past year was one filled with loss. I had never experienced losing so many friends, or attending so many funerals before. In my husband line of work, which is really a labor of love and a call, we find ourselves often serving families through some of the most difficult times in their lives, the loss love ones. This past year took that to a level that neither of us had ever experienced before. Up until the very close of the year, loss was looming. It didn’t discriminate with age, color, culture, and it was gut wrenching at times. People we knew well, and others not so well, but we knew those who knew them well. I would often pray, “GOD, I know you have a plan and I know you have a purpose, but this is beginning to be really difficult“. I would find myself crying so much, that I just had to stop and sit for a minute. Eventually, I got numb to it, and it seemed like I was always sitting on the edge of my seat awaiting the next death, never really allowing myself to mourn the last loss because the morning process would stop me from being able to do what needed to be done during this time, which was to serve.
But, I realized that as we entered this new year, I prayed and asked God to help me understand why last year was so difficult. What was that about? And then it hit me as I sat, and allow Him to speak to my heart. I heard Him say to me that the loss these lives, weighed much heavier on His heart than mine. Imagine the weight of the world which He carries on his shoulders. The yearly, weekly, daily, hourly, and seconds that He must morn life. It was a non stop processes. Yet, He also understood the pain which we carry as human beings. Then, I felt Him say to me,
-“Value life, your life, every life, no matter the color, the gender, the culture, no matter how rich or how poor, the lives of those I have placed in your sphere of influence. Don’t take for granted that they will be there or that you will be there to say I love you. Great your neighbor, and help the stranger, give more, receive more, have joy, and feel the pain of others, don’t just walk by and ignore them. Take the time to be grateful, and take the time to mourn the losses. Relish each birth & death, and carefully soak in the legacies left behind. Don’t put off the dreams you have, and don’t take for granted the goals you have accomplished. However, don’t let the chase of the dreams and goals stop you from remembering the call I have for you. Don’t be afraid to let go if it’s not working, while don’t be afraid to FIGHT for what is worth fighting for. Value every moment, and don’t ignore my voice. I won’t always speak to you, so when you hear me, stop and listen. Pray more, and talk less. Live more, and complain less. Don’t forget who you are, and whose you are. Life is short, but fill every moment with Me and you won’t regret one day you have lived. If you do this, the day you die, will be just the beginning of eternity.” –
Life really is but a moment, and I don’t want it to be said, that in the moments that He’s given me, I missed the most important things and people whom He blessed me with. I also don’t want to ignore the gift is is to live a life valuable and called, making an impact in my family, in my community, in my church and in my world. The gift of waking up every morning is in fact a call to LIVE in view of ETERNITY. Take those moments and be intentional about what you do with them. Not everyone will understand your intention, but God knows the call He has given you. So, with that, you know WHO YOU ARE, and WHOSE YOU ARE. Go with God, and LIVE!
“It’s not how long you live…but how WELL you live.” – Martin Luther King Jr.
“I have told you now before it happens, so that when it happens you may believe. I will not speak with you much longer, for the ruler of this world is coming. He has no power over me, but I am doing just what the Father commanded me, so that the world may know that I love the Father. Get up, let us go from here.” – John 14:27-31